Spouses of Fibro
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Created by Wallace Frye

Watching them in pain and coping with it

We all know how painful this disease  can be on our spouse. We have to watch them suffer all the time. I know it is no easy task. One minute they are light on their feet and the next they are on the ground crying. It hurts. It really hurts to watch your loved one be in so much pain. How do you cope with it? Even when they take their hurt out on you, how do you cope?

32 months ago
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  • Wallace

    I cope with it knowing that God will take care of us. Angel and I have had our issues. She even left me at one point. Even then i still stuck by her side cause i love her with all my heart. We are back together and that alone feels me with joy. I love taking care of her. I love being with her even on her bad days. I cope with her pain by staying by her side and letting her know it is ok. That i am there for her. If she happens to have a bad day and takes it out on me, i know she is not doing it on purpose. I just let it slide and when she is feeling better i talk to her about it. We don't fight or argue. I tell her how i feel. She usually apoligizes before we even talk.. I always tell her it is ok. I have big shoulders i can carry her burdens too. Even with her being sick, i know i am so blessed to have her in my life.

    32 months ago

  • Misty

    Wallace I am so happy for you and Angel! I had you both in my prayers and thoughts during your seperation because I know inside how much pain you had being away from her and not understanding the situation. Angel,I knew what you were going through during that time and I know how you just needed time to find what was you!

    Anyway, I think it is important for our spouses to know that no matter what we say or do when we are in agony, we love them and we want them to be by our side, maybe just at a small distance.

    I say mean things to my son and husband sometimes on my bad days and I don't realize it. I told them once that they need to remind me of what I say because I can't help it and I don't like talking to them in a mean way. This has helped us with our bond!

    Wallace, koodos to you for starting this community! My husband won't get on here because he thinks he only needs to worry about me and he doesn't realize it is so much more! Maybe some day! I am here to support you and give you help and guidance! I know Angel will make a great resource for you as well!

    32 months ago

  • Kolton

    Ya...I'm still young and holding up my GF when she can't do it herself still tires me out very quickly but God knows it's worth it at the end of the day to heold her in my arms... I love my gf but I hope it gets easier with time...Maybe her symptoms will get better...idk..are we crazy in believing these symptoms will get under control?

    30 months ago

  • Wallace

    no Kolton you are not crazy. With time it get easier. Plus it depends on her treatment. There will be bad days, good days, great days, and down right kick you in the nuts days, but hold strong for the woman you love. show her that love NO MATTER WHAT and in the end it will all work out. ;)

    30 months ago

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