I am too scared to date knowing how fibro was a factor in my last relationship. It is like the job interview where you conceal your medical condition. It is the rare and special individual who attempts to understand what you are going through and support you...and I have not found him yet. I know I isolate myself alot due to the fibro.
The last two things the last man I dated (And he was the first since I've been ill. I've been ill 17 years!) said to me were a) "You'll always be TOO TIRED" (which I had told him way before we ever embarked on a romantic 'ship) and b) "I don't think you want to get well!". That was like getting run over by a FLEET of trucks. He was so proud always that he'd "never hit a woman" - but wow did I learn that a woman with FM can be hit with cruel words, being yelled at... don't ever date anyone who ever demeans you and enjoys it, folks. Please!
I think the last one was just ("just"- like that wasn't a big thing) said to hurt me. Leave me with a hurt. I hope he didn't mean it - he's been following me on the Internet now (somehow got into a private MySpace page, went to all of my friends' pages, read every comment) and takes "screen shots" of any comment that might be about him...just a sad, messed up guy. But this means that I can't talk freely and it is so frustrating. So I just choose to move on. And hopefully eventually I'll see that I learned something here. I can't guess what yet! But there'll be something. Do get to know someone well before starting a romantic relationship. We met through letters and then phone calls and ... well, a person can be anyone they want through that medium. Don't invest your heart until you know them, really, as a friend first. I still trust people - I'm so glad for that! Sorry to go on and on... I guess I needed to get some of that out. And I'm so tired of "hiding". If he is messed up enough to track me here? Fine.
Jacy
Amy Lynn